If there was only one thing I could tell you, it would be this: nothing is ever going to change until you change. I love you just the way you are. You don’t need to change for me. But if something in your life doesn’t feel right, if you’re too stressed, too isolated, or too tired, then it’s up to you to change it. You’re the one who has been making the decisions to get your life to where it is. You’re the only one who can make the decisions you need to make to get your life to where you want it to be. The part of this equation that is difficult to accept is that you’ve been making these life decisions based on asking yourself the wrong questions. Our questions tend to focus on what we want to obtain, how we want to spend our time, and what we need to do to survive. Forget all those. You’ll live. You’re going to do a lot of things you don’t want to do, and you’re not going to have a lot of the things you currently think you want. Those things don’t actually matter. Doing and getting what you want will only give you limited happiness; it soon fades, and all you’re left with is the bill. Start asking yourself better questions, and it won’t be long before you’re living a better life. Ask yourself what it is that you want to be able to contribute to life, to your life and to the lives of others. Then, ask yourself who you need to become to give that gift of yourself to the world. The more aligned you become with what you want to give, the more joyful your life will become despite the inevitable pitfalls and struggles that life brings.